It would be unusual to note the death of a person grammatically when speaking to the family of that person - you can be sure that they already know. So these terms are used solely for informing, gently, that the person of whom you speak, is deceased, it is redundant, and insensitvely so.
If we are being very gentle about saying it, and perhaps when we would rather not mention by name the people we speak of, we often refer to those who have left us as 'the departed'. For example, when addressing a group of people, perhaps praying for a number of deceased people, we can collectively refer to them as 'the departed' or 'the dearly departed'
Clair is correct, the Deceased is very formal. 'The late Mr Smith' is a polite way to speak of someone who has recently passed away.
A widow may sometimes refer to 'my late husband', and could do so for decades after he died.
Sometimes you will see 'late' used this way: 'Mr Smith, late of Jakarta'. It is an odd phrasing, which you might see in a media report. It means 'the person, Mr. Smith, who recently died, was from Jakarta'.
When the person died a long time ago, we can be more frank. 'Mr smith, who passed away in 1990...' or 'Mr Smith, who died in 1990 when his car...