What do you do when your family ask you money? In my case, I do not lend money to my family or friends very often because if there are problems with them paying me back, our relationship could be negatively affected. I prefer to lend a small amount of money, so I don't get worried if there are delays. There are always some alternatives to lending money. For example, you could help them with something else that is not necessarily money. Saying "no", is not the end of the world. Just take your time and have confidence about your motives.