As a native speaker in the US, the words "occasionally", "sometimes", "not often", "rarely" seem most natural for what you want.
For example,
"I love cake, but I rarely eat it".
"I occasionally go out and watch a movie. I would go more often, but it is so expensive."
"Sometimes I put cream in my coffee, and sometimes I don't."
"I don't study very often, but I always enjoy studying when I have the time."
Note: rarely is less often than sometimes/not often/occasionally. So, "rarely" means "almost never".
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As for the other words, I will try to help. "Chaotic" means completely confused and unorganized. "After the actor became famous, he became addicted to drugs, and his life was completely chaotic after that." It is similar to the word "haphazard". (Note: "chaos" is also used in an academic context called "Chaos Theory" which has a different meaning.)
Erratic is also similar to chaotic and haphazard. It means random and unpredictable. For example, "Her mood is erratic. One moment she is happy, the next moment she is sad, and then angry, and then another moment passes, and she is laughing and smiling."
Irregular means something is "not normal" or that it doesn't fit a pattern. Like irregular verbs in a language— they don't follow the pattern.
The word "fitful" means something is interrupted by "fits". "I was trying to sleep, but the sleep was fitful" OR "I was trying to help, but the progress was fitful. People kept interrupting the progress."
I should say "fitful" does seem to usually be used to talk about sleep. Also, the word fitful is rarely used. I am a native speaker and did not know what it meant.