One is a verb and the other is an adjective. That's all you need to know. I hope these examples help you understand.
Just one warning: the word "bothered" can play two roles. It can be the past tense of the verb "to bother" and it can also be the past participle (p.p.) of the same verb. In this discussion "bothered" is being used only in the sense of a past participle acting as an adjective.
---ADJECTIVE "BOTHERED"---
As an adjective, "bothered" can describe any noun but normally that noun is a living thing:
"Bothered by his sister, Billy asked her to stop talking". (adjective describes Billy)
"Billy is bothered by his sister's talking" (adjective describes Billy)
"Bewitched, bothered and bewildered am I" (adjective describes "I". This is a line from a famous song.)
"Mary is annoying Billy. You know it from his face. He looks like a bothered boy" (adjective describes "boy")
"The English teacher, bothered by the word 'get', is fed up and wants to do something else with his life." (adjective modifies "teacher")
"The editor says he is bothered by the word 'impactful'. He says he will scream if he hears it one more time". (adjective modifies "he")
---ACTIVE VERB "BOTHER"---
Your sentence "I don't bother about falling" is poor. It is not even clear to me what it means. Here are some valid uses of "bother" as a verb:
"Billy's little sister bothers him, so he moves away from her."
"That lady bewitches, bothers, and bewilders me."
"The word 'get' bothers every English teacher."
"The word 'impactful' bothers editors. Indeed, it can drive them insane."