Maya
How did you find your language exchange partner without romantic feelings trouble?

I apologize in advance if I used impolite English. I do not want to being rude but my English is poor.


I am sure that many people is struggling about this problem.


I merely would like to improve my conversational English skills. I met the few person to exchange languages a few years ago in Japan. Most of them tried to be a lover(I mean it is like boyfriend/girlfriend). I luckily had two person to study languages after I discouraged a few times for those person who were looking for romantic relationship. But now, they went back to their country and I do not have anyone to practice English in person. I do not have enough time to find right person than years ago. And I am learning English for fun, thus I won't consider to join the paid class.

How could you find someone to improve each others' study, not via internet? Is there any specific English formula that I should reaffirm? Or should I take a time to find a language exchange partner?

Jan 4, 2017 9:23 AM
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Maya, you can ask at local universities in your town whether they have a place, like in their library, where you could put up a notification that you're looking for someone to practice English with. Universities usually have foreign students, who may be interested. My city library in town does something like this. Then you could also look for any language schools in your area for foreigners and ask if you could put up a notification there as well.

By the way, I really don't think that the sentence "I'm not looking for a romantic relationship" is offensive. It's direct, yes, but it's perfectly acceptable. Some may wonder why there is a need to even write that sentence, but most will understand. And don't worry about those who don't understand.

January 4, 2017
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Hi again

I agree with Melanie's comments (and Mustafa's). You could also try looking for any clubs or societies that meet for conversation in other languages. Many towns and cities in the UK have these sort of informal/semi-formal groups that are not classes, just people who want to use their language skills.  I'm not sure if that sort of thing exists in Japan.

I also agree that "I'm not looking for a romantic relationship" is perfectly clear, and not offensive in my culture. You shouldn't have to say this sort of thing, as most men and women on this forum who ask for language exchange want exactly that, but sadly there are a number of people (mostly men) who perhaps need you to spell out precisely what you do want so as to avoid any confusion.

I wish you the best of luck.

Chris 


January 4, 2017
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If only talking online, probably there would not have any romantic feelings, but when it goes to meeting in person, it is hard to say. All in all, I don't believe that there is pure friendship between men and women unless one of them is ugly:). Even if only talking online, when talk everyday you will have some feelings as well.
January 4, 2017
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You could just mention it in the first conversation in an implicit way and specify your purpose, that you are not looking for anything more or less than improving your conversational skills. that maybe will limit their expectations and will not give any hope. try this till you find the right ones.
January 4, 2017
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You are a girl, then generally, you should not accept a boy to be your language partner.
January 4, 2017
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