Wow, you have a really sad view of what love is all about. True love is not something that is logically reasoned, it's something that is felt in your heart. The type of relationships you describe don't have anything to do with true love, but more with mutually beneficial agreements. When I met my husband (the cool guy in my picture), I just felt an instant connection. I was not thinking about how this guy traveling through Europe with his guitar would be able to be beneficial to me. It was all about feelings. Same when my kids were born. Love at first sight.