Examples:
Simon is sad because his dog died.
The child could not go to the ice cream store so she was sad.
Amy became sad after hearing about the accident. (implies that she cried, she felt really down)
Amy became upset after hearing about the accident. (implies that she may have been angry, scared, anxious, and sad)
Brad was upset yesterday because he had an argument with his girlfriend.
When you push me, that makes me upset.
Actually, you could replace any of the 'sad' or 'upset' in those sentences with the other word and they would have similar meanings.