Florian K.
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Money and friendship: Oil and water
I came across a proverb about money and friendship, and it goes this way, “Before borrowing money from a friend, decide which you need most.” Of course, there are similar proverbs which mean that do not borrow or lend money to a friend because you might lose that friend just for money. I recalled several experiences where a friend borrowed money and never paid the amount and although the friendship is still there, I think the trust isn’t and eventually, the friendship will die without trust.

 Friends play an important part in our life and sometimes they play the role of our second family. They are our support system. It is important though to separate money issues from friendship and I did just that. I am, “neither a borrower nor a lender.” If I need money, I prefer to work overtime rather than borrow from friends. It is because I would not like my friends to think ill of me and I had a couple of rich friends. It is, of course, different from one person to another and it also depends on the culture. Some mix money and friendship, and it is okay as long as they still know how to pay a loan.

Money and friendship is like oil and water, they don't mix well. However, there is always an exemption.

Is it okay to mix money and friendship?


28 окт. 2019 г., 12:14
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Florian, not necessary generous.

I take too:)
29 октября 2019 г.
2
Here we are with mysterious Russian souls)))
As for me I do lend money now and then, but before I lend it I ask myself if I'm ready to never see it again)
It never happened that a person to whom I lent money didn't pay it back. But there are people to whom I just give the amount I can afford at the moment. That's neither a loan nor a present) It's financial assistance)
Here your attitude to money is important. As well as affordability. The things money asked for also matter. You won't reduce your ordinary expenses to help someone buy luxury, but you'll most probably do it to help someone buy food or medicine.
28 октября 2019 г.
2
Florian, you can always just give money to your friends. Instead of lending. That's what I usually do:)




28 октября 2019 г.
1
Money are a useful invention, they are just being used in a sick way, by attributing them values going beyond their former function of being an exchange tool. Even if one feels above the sick connotation that they have nowadays, and fine in giving and receiving them from friends, i think it is always more advisable to keep them out of our closer relations. They are dirty stuff, dangerous to handle
29 октября 2019 г.
1
@Natalia, your are exactly right. I mean certainly the case when person is in difficult situation and for me it is no other variant to help and that's all.
28 октября 2019 г.
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Florian K.
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китайский (путунхуа), английский, филиппинский (тагалогский), финский, другой
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