You may notice that chinese seems so abrupt. It's much more direct than our culture, we always use extra words to show politeness, we use it too much. "Can I please have your phone number?", "Could I have?" etc... I always thought it was impolite at first when seeing chinese people just ask things, for example to waiters: "bring me this." not "can i please have ..". I find the chinese way better - politeness has a lot more meaning when it's not a social requirement to say it in every situation without fear of looking impolite.