Let me quickly answer your questions one by one:
1) No, "I have said [X]" does NOT mean "I have repeatedly said [X]" unless you specifically add "repeatedly", "often", "many times", etc.
2) It definitely does NOT mean "I have said it but I did not mean it/it was not my intention to/I regret it" (unless you specifically add such a restriction).
3) "I have noticed X" is COMPATIBLE WITH the interpretation [I have repeatedly noticed], but does NOT entail it (nor the converse: it does not imply that you noticed something just once, either). Depending on whether "X" names a unique event or a set of events of the same type, "I have noticed X" will be interpreted one way or the other.
4) Definitely not all periphrastic perfect verb forms allow an iterative interpretation, but this has nothing to do with the auxiliary "have". If the verb that follows it is such that it must be interpreted as naming a unique event, the iterative interpretation is automatically blocked (e.g., "My father has died"). The multiple-event interpretation is not available unless the VP following "have" requires it (e.g., "I have seen hundreds of plays", "I have interviewed fifty candidates", "I have repeatedly noticed such a reaction", etc.).
5) Verbs like "notice", "realize" etc. name (unique) instantaneous changes of experiential state ("achievements"), tend to be used in the simple past (rather than the perfect: such states do not last), and go well with adverbs like "suddenly", but not with adverbs of "duration", UNLESS an iterative reading is licensed by other clause constituents (e.g., a plural object, adverbs like "often").
6). What makes verbs like "live in [place]" compatible with duration adverbials is that they name lasting STATES (not instantaneous events). States like "live in London" are unbounded unless you specify their duration by means of a suitable adverbial (e.g., "for three years", "since I left school", etc.).
Good luck! :-)