Miriam none of them are derived from names. Not that I know of.
You are right with the unf meaning.
The meanings of the following words/phrases are things I've learned over the last 15 or so years from online friends that were in 'fandoms'.
Flail- in the physical sense when fangirls/fanboys are happy they flap their hands and waves their arms like they are a bird trying to fly. (sounds silly I know).
unf- your definition was right.
'I can't even'- when you're so at a loss for words.
'what is air'- when you feel breathless during fangirling and are so in awe
ship- when you enjoy the idea of two people together that aren't actually together in real life
otp- stands for 'One True Pairing'. kind of relating back to ship. It's your favorite ship of two people together.
feels- are all the feelings that you feel when you're fangirling.
fangirling- this can be a range of reactions/emotions.
squee- the sound girls make sometimes when they're fangirling. It's like a high pitched fire engine racing down the street kind of sound.