I used to be one of those people who hated small talk. I cherish and get stimulated by "big", intellectual, meaningful conversations. But I eventually realized that small talk is important to get to the big talk. You can't walk up to a stranger and strike up a conversation about the meaning of life—and if you did, it wouldn't amount to much, because there wouldn't be much rapport between you. There would be little trust that would enable the other person to truly open up.

Also, small talk is important sometimes for its own sake, because we don't always want to have deep conversations. Sometimes we just want to let go of our worries and indulge in meaningless chitchat. The other day I went to my barber and I wasn't having a good day, he asked me how I was, I said I was good, then I asked how he was, he said good, and that was that. I sat in silence and allowed him to work on my hair while relaxing and not having to think about anything. There's comfort in small talk sometimes.

I think it really depends who is doing the talking.Of course we can communicate without words.And often we don't really say what we mean.Sometimes people say something when they mean to say something else. Again it depends on culture,too.Some cultures are more direct in the way they express themselves than others. Regarding topics that matter, many things matter, relationships, world poverty, education, technology. 

I usually am terrible at small talk and thinking of things to say. I like deep, meaningful conversation. I remember when I was younger, listening to my dad and his friends talk about important topics, and I enjoyed listening and learning.

One thing I like is singing songs together with my friends. It is almost like a conversation, but we sing indeed of talk. I love hearing the harmony and melody blend together. Sometimes music is better for communicating something than words.

Talk about topics that you are interested in, but also let the other person choose topics. Otherwise you are being selfish. 

I agree with this statement partially "The more we communicate, the less we really say". For my point of views, I think this is basing on who we're talking with.

There is a Chinese saying "常与同好争高下，不与傻瓜论短长”，which means “Rather fighting with a sensible person than arguing with an idiot." I think the deeper meaning for myself is: I would like to have more communication or deeper idea sharing with the person who has the similar value on world view and outlook on life. But I don't want to waste my time on arguing with the person who shared the total different values with me. 

When talking with the people who shared the similar values, I can always get something new even though we stand on different sides about same topic. After communication, I would think more deeply and ask myself if my viewpoints are really correct and without any prejudice? 

But when talking with the latter, they can never accept different viewpoints and they will always try everything and explain every reason they can to convince you...That's so tired and wasting time. And finally we get the conclusion "The more we communicate, the less we want say".