Not wishing to digress from the original "don-dawn" question, here is nevertheless what the American Merriam-Webster Dictionary says:
Merry - Pronunciation: \ˈmer-ē, ˈme-rē\
Marry - Pronunciation: \ˈmer-ē, ˈma-rē\
How do Americans actually pronounce these? I hope that Americans will come forward to enlighten us.
A separate but allied question: "The British and people from the Commonwealth may regard the Queen as the ultimate living guide to correct pronunciation (now that the BBC has abdicated from this role). In the United States, who is the person or are the persons who fulfil this role?