I suppose unvoiced sounds are more "breathy." Sometimes it helps to put your hand in front of your mouth when you say a sound and if you feel air on your hand, it is unvoiced, but that may not help with all the unvoiced sounds. Another way you could try to remember these rules is to remember which letters/sounds are considered voiced and unvoiced. Here's a breakdown that I've used with students before:
1. Use /t/ after unvoiced final sounds f, k, p, s, (ch), (sh), (th)
look - looked (t) push - pushed (t) ask - asked (t) watch - watched (t) help - helped(t) dress - dressed (t)
2. Use /d/ after voiced final sounds b, g, (j), l, m, n, , r, ∂(th), v, z, + vowels
sob - sobbed (d) roam - roamed (d) believe - believed (d) judge - judged (d) fill - filled (d) enjoy - enjoyed (d)
3. Use /ed/(another syllable) after final /d/ and /t/ .
needed (ed) wait – waited (ed)
There may be other approaches, but hopefully that can give you some idea.