When a soldier is ready for an attack, he is 'ON guard'.
If you attack him when he is not expecting you, you 'catch him OFF guard'.
In a situation where someone is expecting a fight, or an argument perhaps, a tactic is to approach them in a surprising way - with a smile perhaps, or at a surprising time.
The expression is generally used with the verb 'to catch'.
eg. I want to catch him off guard, so I will call him at the weekend.
eg. I didn't expect him to be friendly - he caught me off guard