For decades, I have seen many people who managed relationships by always accommodating the wants of others. They never looked after their own needs, resulting always in hurt or rejection. When I was a child, my parents and teachers would tell me: follow your own instincts and friend the people who really like you. They also said that nobody can know you better than you do. That was so true, and knowing it helped me to overcome many relationship difficulties as I grew up. There is a lyric that says that as you grow up, loneliness grows too. For adults, friendships are not all that matters. Benefits are not the main thing to consider in relationships. If you are tired of working your way into social circles, my advice is to distance yourself from social butterflies. Better to be alone than to force a smile for people who hate you . The enjoyment of solitude is an important skill for every adult.
Beware the difference between "lonliness" and "solitude". I think you are saying "lonliness" when you are really thinking of solitude. Loneliness is always bad. Nobody ever wants to feel lonely. "Solitude", on the other hand merely means being by yourself and is not necessarily negative.
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"Because as for adults, the relationships between us and others don't always absolutely depend on friendships . most of the time, benefits are the first thing that people think about when they decide to build a relationship with ohters. "